To Growth in 2019- Things We Must Leave Behind

Take a look through your communications thus far.

Do a deep analysis . The ones we have conversations with shape us in unimaginable ways. We do have to make sure they are of positive impact.

Do the bulk of your communications contribute to growth? Do you find that you don’t have enough time to work on what is important to you?

You might want to take a deep breath, take a glass of red grape juice ( because alcohol is bad for your liver and health in general) and face the arduous task of pruning your conversations.

If all you do is

-Talk about other people’s private business,

– Fight over flimsy things,

– Discuss inappropriate topics you wouldn’t in real life,

– Engage in heated dead-end arguments on incendiary topics like politics or religion,

– Struggle to explain yourself, or feel belittled,

– Be wilfully ignorant, a mansplainer, disrespectful, insensitive or vulgar,

– Spend long hours on meandering conversations with no end or purpose in sight,

You should consider cutting back- a lot – on this conversation/person. There’s way too much toxicity in there. You do not have to be rude. Of course try and work with them to improve things but if they aren’t willing or ready to change, then it’s time to let them go. Appreciate whatever good they’ve brought and send them off on their way with a basket of smiles for flowers.

Cultivate friends and conversations that

– Are about giving back to society.

– Grow you and make you better,

– Inspire you to do things you never thought possible.

– Help you fine-tune your ideas and execute your plans

– Are about exchanging rich, illuminating articles about a wide range of relevant topics.

– Celebrate your accomplishments, are comfortable when your intellect shines forth with almost-blinding radiance,

– Make you laugh with rich humour,

– Expand your horizon, feel your brain literally open up and absorb knowledge,

– Make you feel happy, respected and confident.

Look for these people. Have conversations with them instead.

Be that person.

Because we have to keep being better versions of ourselves, we are done with things or people that prevent us from achieving this. You are too special to be bound to things that diminish you!

That’s the energy we are taking into 2019.

Danke meine damen und herren!

P.S. I think you should read this amazing Medium article by The Startup . It is an easy-to-follow bite-sized guide to growth in 2019 by saying the word ‘No’.

No, you did not read that wrong.

Fun fact: My friend sent it to me. It is the latest in a string of the gazillion cerebral boosts our conversations are made of.

Get a friend like mine.

…………

Wih Love,

Oumissa

TheRamadhanBaby #18- Get Busy with Dhikr

The tongue , like many gifts we have been given can be utilized in different ways. It can  spring forth words of kindness or hate, truth or lies, eloquence or vulgarity, unity or discord.

But there is a great way to keep this piece of flesh busy and productive – with Dhikr
Constant remembrance of Allah brings calm, serenity and tranquility. By it, we make prudent use of that fleeting yet scarce resource -our ‘free’ time. 

We should therefore step up our frequency of uttering words and phrases of praise, glorification and acknowledgement of Allah’s greatness. Perhaps the commonest examples are:
Tasbih– SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah)

Tahmid– Alhamdulillah (Praise be to Allah)

Tahlil– La ilaha ila llah (There is no deity worthy of worship besides Allah)

Takbir– Allahu Akbar (Allah is the Greatest)

(*Did you know?-  Tahlil can be said without moving the lips making it easy to say even in times of weakness, fear and other difficult situations.)
There are numerous others to be found in the Qur’an and Sunnah.
 “Verily in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest”  (Q13:28)

“O you who believe! let not your properties or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. (Q63:9)
Narrated  Abu Musa (may Allah be pleased with him): ‘The Prophet(peace be upon him  said, “The example of the one who remembers his Lord in comparison to the one who does not remember his Lord, is that of a living creature compared to a dead one. ” ‘

(Sahih Al-Bukhari Vol 8 Hadith 416)

It is a means of earning forgiveness (imagine? without even asking for it!) as well as purification for our souls.It also increases us in piety and makes us even dearer to our Lord.
 These are more than enough reasons to inculcate Dhikr in every moment possible, everyday.

Reference: The Noble Quran: English Translation of the meanings and commentary – Dr. Muhammad Taqi-ud-Din Al-Hilali and Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan.