”Life is tough” is a phrase everyone uses from time to time. It doesn’t matter if you are rich or poor, old, young, male or female.
The very process of living comes with a lot of challenges. We have to get through somehow.
There is however one characteristic we all possess (albeit in varying amounts) -patience.
Closely associated with forbearance, endurance, perseverance , making lemonades out of lemons or just the plain old putting-a-smile-on-your-face, patience helps us forge ahead in the midst of life’s turbulence.
It helps us avoid mistakes and rash decisions. it helps us see the silver lining behind clouds, gain the fattest bone. It is true that the world in which we live in, filled as it is with immediate gratification all forms of hedonistic tendencies, makes the exercise of patience laborious and seemingly nonprofitable.
However, it helps us in the long run, is a source of strength and a valuable lesson to teach the young.
Be patient when you fall ill every Ramadhan and don’t get to do many acts of Ibaadah.
Be patient when insensitive people ask you why you are not married yet, don’t have that degree, didn’t get your dream job or child.
Be patient even though you want to give them a piece of your mind and ask them if Allah is not the only source of good.
Be patient when you are angry, (Q41:34, 3:134) for this is a sign of strength (Sahih Al-Bukhari, Vol 8, Hadith no 135), you would avert trouble from yourself and others.
Be patient when everything seems to be falling apart, you are overwhelmed and no one seems to understand you.
Be patient while you work to make things better for help is on the way even if your efforts seem not to work right now.
Be patient through grief (amazing example in the relatives of the victims of the recent horrendous attacks in Manchester, Portland and Kabul).
Be patient through illness, disappointments, pain and sorrow.
Be patient and trust Allah to set right all your affairs.
Be patient for Allah is with the patient ones. (Q8:46)
Be patient for He does not waste the reward of the doers of good. (Q11:115)
No one said it was easy but we are all learners with endless capacity for improvement.